Stupid Cupid!

♡ All I wanna do, is keep on crashing into you ♡"

Oh Valentine be mine… The sun is (somewhat) shining, birds are a' tweeting, and love is in the air (in reality the scent of coffee and stale food is in the air where i'm currently sat writing this…) But I digress, for someone who has written extensively on solitude and enjoying being single, today's post will be pretty surprising as it's about opening up your heart, and striking a balance between self love, being open to love and recieveing affection from others. Quelle horreur those who know me in real life may say, Sade, writing about ~feels~ no way! But yes way guys, yes way, I am a changed woman, I am embracing emotions and trying (emphasis on trying) to be more at one with expressing myself and not feeling vulnerable or weak for doing so.

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I'll use myself as an example. I'm a strange mixture of overly emotional yet not actually showing much emotion in real life, weird indeed. It's not that i *don't* want to show emotions, it's simply that I'm not sure how to express the whirlwind of emotions in my chest and pour them out into real life, or indeed into writing (which i've seriously been sucking at - sorry veteran blog readers, i'm sure you've noticed too!). I think I used to and somewhat still feel that if I react to anything too emotionally that i'd lose some of my strength, which is absurd and robotic. There comes a point when you realise your self preservation is almost stunting your growth, and it's something I came to terms with at the end of last year. My obsession with avoiding anything that would cause me emotional turmoil began to stunt my progress in little things in life and I realised that it simply would not do, so this year has definitely been a year of firsts and challenges on my part in regards to blossoming and opening up to people, be it family, friends or loved ones.

So I say all this to express the importance in balancing self preservation with learning to keep your heart open, love is only around the corner as they say ;) 

Happy Valentine's Day Internet Friends!

What I Wore…

Jumper - Joanie Clothing | Jeans - ASOS | Beret - Monki | Shoes - Primark | Bag - Joanie Clothing

photos by Domi



  1. This is so freaking cute, Sade!!

  2. You're right, it's so important to learn to be open with people.
    This outfit is gorgeous!!

  3. This look is so chic and so cute! You look like you're having so much fun and thats great!


  4. Love your outfit Sade and really could relate to your post. I've always shied away from showing my emotions in the past to avoid being vulnerable but you're right about it stunting your growth x

  5. Those shoes are primark? Lovee them!!! And love that last photo. So so cute!


  6. LOVE your shoes! Blogged about how much I'm in love with them in my latest post and I come here to see this one. 😞😍😍😭


  7. Anonymous2/14/2017

    Yes! I can relate to this Sade, and while I probably fall into the wearing my heart on my sleeve/revealing a bit too much too soon camp, (not just romantically, but in all aspects of my life), I'm still very reserved about some things.

    I read this a long time ago and I've never forgotten it, so I want to share it with you too...

    "To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable" - C S Lewis, the Four Loves.

    Whether it's romantic love your referring to, or just revealing your innermost feelings and emotions (good and bad), perhaps being vulnerable will bring about more good things than keeping it all inside...

    Whatever the case, lots of love to you from a long term reader, beautiful!


  8. You continue to kill me dead with your photographs. I might be the opposite of you, emotionally. I am a constant crier. I can't STOP saying how I feel all the time. x

  9. Sometimes I forget why I absolutely love red then instances like the beautiful photography on this post will remind me. Growth is amazing! I'm happy for you, spotting things that stunt your growth and working on them. I wish it didn't haven to be so hard :P.

    Hope you had a great Valentine's!

    Ps: I'm sorry but I read a bulk of this post like, yes, Virgo ma'am... Lol. I'm one to talk.


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