On: Disposability.

"Disposable, incidental, wasteful, throwaway."

[dih-spoh-zuh-buh l] 

1. Designed for or capable of being thrown away after being used orused up:
Disposable plastic spoons; a disposable cigarette lighter.

2. Free for use; available:
Every disposable vehicle was sent.

3. Something disposable after a single use, as a paper cup, plate, or napkin.

My posts as of late have been quite wordy, partly because I don’t have anything better to do until I get a new job, and partly because life has been... tumultuous, and writing my thoughts out feels much healthier than keeping it in. Ironically my last post was on hope and hopelessness and today my friends I am really struggling with the whole hopeful thing. I dislike when the week starts off on a bad note because it makes me feel like the rest of the week will follow the same pattern... But onwards and upwards eh? It gets worse before it gets better as they say. Life is a strange thing and I usually try not to question things in the world, one of the things that grounds me is that there are lots of good things happening in the world as well as the bad, one of my favourite sources for small joys is this place, sounds strange but after being constantly pummelled by bad news, sometimes it's nice to see that there are nice things happening across the globe too. One thing i've wondered on a daily basis, is that does there come a time in adult life where everything just sort of smooth's out into soft curves as opposed to the jagged cracks of uncertainty that are rippling through my young adult years. Since January everything has felt heightened and it feels like i'm toeing the line as it were and having to be so careful with e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g. Cryptic, yes.

 I think the past couple of months have been stressful and incredibly exhausting, so much so that most days all I want to do is cocoon. Lately my hobbies consist of simply curling up in a ball and sleeping for hours on end. I wake up when the sun peeks through my blinds and bathes my bedroom in a soft light and seeing that light provides an overwhelming sense of peace that i can only compare to God himself being present in those tiny rays of joy. 

One of the bad (but sometimes good) things about having free time and not having anything to do, is spending so much time alone in bed is that you are free to think about absolutely everything in horrifying detail for days on end. I’ve been thinking a lot about disposability in the 21st century. There’s a famous quote floating around the Internet along the lines of “back in the day people fixed things instead of throwing them away” in reference to relationships, be they in regards to love or friendship, and it’s something that has played on my mind for the past three weeks and it’s something I cannot and maybe stubbornly refuse to accept or even understand to a point. In some aspects I think a lot of us are fundamentally a group of young people who are far too fickle and prone to throwing things away as soon as there is some sort of feeble allusion to an inconvenience, rather than fixing it, we immediately think it’s a better solution to simply start again. Myself included in this by the way – I’ve been incredibly childish in the past with some of my friendships and instead of fixing the cracks, I simply jumped ship because a) laziness b) pride. Both of which are stupid. But long story short, I really want this generation to start fixing things again instead of jumping ship, after all, a wise old owl once told me that love is simply meeting in the middle. If anything I can say that I always try my hardest to work on things with loved ones because the thought of throwing away years, months, weeks, days worth of memories is silly to me. Let's love each other a bit better and be wary of other people's feelings.

With that, I’ll leave you with a verse that has been playing on my heart these few days…

1 Corinthians 13:4
“ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.”

What do you think? Is there a culture of disposability that we need to fix?



  1. I think yes and no. While I've met people who are quick to throw away relationships, I've also met people who are willing to try to figure things out, to work through things whenever possible. I think it is easier for us nowadays to simply move on at the drop of a dime, but I think that shows more a shift in our collective situations rather than new generations being more fickle. But those are just my thoughts.

    Gemma | https://activelygemma.com/blog

    1. Thats true actually! Maybe I shouldn't let the acts of a few tar society as a whole as lazy / throwaway. But I wonder why t's easier for us to move and change so quickly and easily (and seemingly unfeelingly?)

      Sade xo

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  3. Wow this is a very interesting thing to think about. On one hand our generation definitely is less keen on fixing things. Probably because we know how easy it is to just get something new. May it be a phone or a relationship.
    For me I'm someone who likes to keep friendships.
    Sometimes its not working, but then it's also probably not ment to be. But in general I think a lot of people change there group of friends and relationships more often nowadays, especially like romantic relationships.

    1. You're most definitely right in that some things are best left, particularly if it's something volatile.. But I agree I've noticed the ease in just saying meh, let's move onto new friends / relationships..

      Sade xo


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