It's 21:45 on a Saturday night and I'm scrambling for a last minute Valentine's day post because the one I was planning isn't quite ready yet, so this time next year expect a more polished post, but for today here's something that has been sitting on my mind quite a lot recently. I've touched on the act of self care, loneliness and now to touch on the notion of being incomplete if you're single. From a cultural perspective it goes; Education, Job, Marriage, Kids. Marriage itself plays a huge part in Nigerian culture, and i've gotten to the age where i've got a wedding to go to almost every summer, and every one on Facebook seems to be sporting a huge diamond on their left hand, so naturally i'm feeling a little bit of pressure to find someone and settle down, particularly with every year that passes, but to me 30 is the new 20 anyway, but more on that in another post...
My alone feels so good, I'll only have you if you're sweeter than my solitude - Warsan Shire
So, will I spontaneously combust if i don't fall in love, or meet someone, or get married at some point in my life? No, but my mum will probably be sad because with the amount of wedding programmes she's been watching, she probably has my wedding already planned out in her head, and the Aso Oke at the ready. If i won't explode into a million tiny pieces of shrapnel labelled "Why am I single?" then neither will you. If like me, you're single by choice, keep working on you for yourself, and if someone comes along, enjoy the moment.
Happy Valentine's day to all my love birds and single pringles out there, have a day filled with love and all things sweet! I have plans to devour a pan full of brownies, do some yoga and binge watch Studio Ghibli films!